DON’T WORRY, BE HAPPY THIS HOLIDAY SEASON
The holidays are traditionally a time to get together with your friends and family. Relatives may be driving across the state or flying in from around the world to spend time with their loved ones. Between the stress of traveling, the rush to finish wrapping one last gift, the juggling act to prepare a meal and the hectic pace of trying to catch up with everyone, this time of year can be overwhelming for anyone.
Although your mother, aunt or grandmother may have enjoyed cooking a big meal for the family in the past, it could be time to pass the hosting torch onto the next generation. Your beloved older family member may not have the stamina she once had but still enjoys “keeping up the tradition” and there is no need to disappoint her. Try these five suggestions to make your holiday less stressful for everyone.
- Divvy up the tasks. Preparing for the holidays is a marathon, not a sprint and as we age, we just don’t have the endurance we once did. You may discover the family matriarch or patriarch needs more rest during and after the holidays, so whether your gathering is large or small, everyone should share in the preparations. Family members who live close by could help with the shopping, housework and decorating during the weeks leading up to the big event. Family members who will only be in town for a day or two could pitch in and help with yard work, food preparations and clean up as well as any last minute decorations.
- Simplify. Consider toning down the decorations inside and outside. Seniors often have difficulty with balance, motor skills and strength. Lights, ornaments and decorations can get anyone into the holiday spirit but rather than hauling out everything, just display the most prized keepsakes. Also, remember to help put all the decorations away at the end of the season, especially if boxes will be heavy or need to be put in an attic or high shelf.
- Do more in the morning. Seniors and small children usually function better earlier in the day, so you may want to plan your activities in the morning or early afternoon. Many seniors experience “sundowning,” and the increased amount of activity and personal interactions during holiday festivities may result in fatigue and increase their confusion. If your family traditionally exchanged gifts, attended religious services and enjoyed the main meal during the late afternoon and evening hours, you should consider revising the schedule of events this year.
- Share stories and memories. While it is important to reduce the physical and mental stress on your aging family members, it is also important to keep them involved in the activities. As friends and relatives gather together to celebrate the holidays, ask the most senior members of your family to help you put together a list of their favorite holiday songs that you can play throughout the day. Not only would the familiar tunes evoke fond memories but it can be a great way to encourage the seniors to share their personal history with everyone, especially the younger generation.
- Go for a ride. Many seniors have difficulty driving, especially at night, so give them a change of scene and go for a ride around town to view the holiday lights. No need to get into heavy conversations, just play some holiday songs and spend some quality time together.
Don’t worry about making everything perfect, just be happy you are spending time together this holiday season!
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